One of my biggest strengths (and weaknesses) is that I’m outspoken. There’s not much in the realm of school counseling that I don’t have a strong opinion about. That means there’s some things that are commonplace among other counselors that I don’t do – because they just aren’t in the best interest of my students.
It can be very easy to spend time on Facebook or Instagram or Pinterest (or the internet in general!) and come up with a ginormous list of what you “should” be doing in your school counseling program. Excellent and effective comprehensive school counseling programs aren’t a list of specific lessons or activities or celebrations, though. Great counseling programs meet the needs of their students. This means they look different. You can ROCK as a counselor and not do #allthethings. Your students can develop socially and emotionally and academically and behaviorally as a result of your work even if you don’t check off all of the boxes created by others.
I’m a school counselor – I’ll even say I’m a GOOD school counselor – and I don’t:
Celebrate Red Ribbon Week
I try to limit the number of “weeks” I do. It keeps what we do do more special. It gives room for other specialists at the school (like the librarian) to do celebratory weeks. And it prevents me from driving my teachers crazy. Red Ribbon Week doesn’t make the cut for lots of reasons. 1) Drug prevention at the elementary level is more about developing assertiveness and self-competence and coping skills, 2) bullying prevention is not a week, it’s a culture, and 3) the original movement seems to have gotten a little convoluted over time.
Do Career Classroom Lessons
Career awareness development is awesome. I sort of would have liked to do more of these lessons. However, I’ve never worked in the rotation. That means getting way less than 20 lessons per classroom each year. My students have significant social-emotional needs that need to be met via my classroom lessons; those are the priority. If I was in the rotation, I think I would have definitely done a career unit, at least with my 3rd and 4th graders. I didn’t beat myself up about not being able to include this, though.
Deliver Meet the Counselor Lessons
I don’t think we need to do “meet the counselor” lessons with every class, every year. There is so much more important work we can be doing with them! I think it’s important to review my self-referral process at the start of the year, but that doesn’t need to be a full lesson. I save the full shebang for if I’m new at a school or if the students may be confused about my role (I did that once when the students had a counselor before me that serviced the students very differently than me).
Conduct Minute Meetings
I’m not a minute meetings hater or lover. I’ve never done them. I’ve never felt like 1) it was the best way for me to connect with my students or 2) that it would provide me with incredibly helpful information. I do like to start the year doing 1 lunch bunch with every single student (it usually takes me a whole quarter) which is somewhat similar. If I did minute meetings, I would have to do 1 or 2 fewer lessons at the start of the year. It just wasn’t the right priority for my program.
Use Social Thinking Stuff
Social Thinking stuff is cool and loads of people love it. It is not for me or my students. The biggest reason is probably that it was not created to be used in 10-15 one off lessons, which is what most counselors (including myself) would use it for. Generalization of the ideas and skills requires a much more comprehensive implementation (at least my students), like a classroom teacher using it, or an SLP using it twice weekly with a group. And the language of “expected vs. unexpected” behaviors just doesn’t sit right with me. Sometimes it feels like I’m the only counselor not using any of these materials.
Hold Lots of Parent Events
I really, really wanted to have parental involvement in the school counseling program and keep them in the loop. My co-counselor and I scheduled monthly parent events, sent home monthly newsletters, etc. And then eventually we stopped. Why? Because those things took a ton of time and the truth was our parents were not attending/reading. We held a free movie night to watch Inside Out in the gym at school. Our school had 980 students. We had fewer than 20 students attend. We sent home a parent note with a super short link for parents to complete a needs assessment. Three completed it. The same four parents came to our workshop presentations every time. It was all incredibly disheartening. Now that I’m a mom myself, I recognize a bit more all of the things at play here. I don’t think my parents were disengaged. Like us as counselors, parents have to prioritize their time. At my schools, participating in or reading about school counseling stuff was not one of their priorities, so us counselors stopped prioritizing this element of our program.
All of that stuff above? It’s not bad! It might even be AMAZING for your students. It just wasn’t for mine. At the end of the day (or the school year!), the most important thing is that we have served OUR students in the ways that best meet THEIR NEEDS. Sometimes this means doing all of the things above. Sometimes it means doing none of them. We’re all doing what’s best for our kiddos. Don’t beat yourself up for not being able to do it all and for prioritizing.
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