In vs. Out of Our Control

One of my 4th grade classrooms had a ton of conflict between a handful of the girls. One of them really struggled with appropriate social skills and was often being rude/mean. The other girls struggled between being frustrated by her and still wanting to be her friend. A couple of them self-referred and together we created this:


Conflict discussion, brainstorming what actions are in our control and out of our control

The girls and I brainstormed things in their lives that were both out of their control and in their control. The hope is that after doing this, they could focus more on their own choices and less on the choices of a classmate…and maybe think more about whether or not its in their best interest to continue friendships with people that hurt them.

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